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I know there are very few females on this board but I’d like to start a discussion of hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause itself.
A little background. My wife is older than I , she’ll be 48 in March. The past 2 months she’s been VERY different from her norm. Withdrawn, moody, short, cold and zero patience for myself or our kids. 6 weeks ago she tells me she needs to get away from us for a bit and takes a long weekend trip with her sister. This is not normal for her. None of this is. She’s generally happy, loves the kids and had always seemed head over heals in love with me. So now my eyes are wide open and I’m wondering wtf is going on. Sex drive was usually quite good, now it’s garbage. After a few weeks of this going on I finally said wtf are you doing?
Her response at the time is nothing is wrong. I said well it’s not a good sign when my wife tells me she needs a break from us. She comes back and is worse. Now I’m really like wtf is up. I can only think of one reason why she’d act this way. Anytime we talk it turns into a fight, again not normal. I tell her flat out, it feels like you got something going on outside of the house and if you do you need to tell me before I find it. We can deal with it if you tell me, if I find out on my own we’re done. More fighting.
Finally after me stressing hard and not eating and all this other shit she breaks down. Says she doesn’t know what’s going on, she hasn’t had her period in a couple months, she’s tired all the time, everything upsets her, gaining weight, feels like a failure, etc. Maybe she’s going through her change.
So anyway, I start looking into menopause and it seems that it’s not something that’s really “treatable”. It’s just a natural thing and you pretty much have to deal with the sides that come along with it. Is that true? Are there ways to ease these effects or minimize them? Is she stuck feeling like we as men did prior to trt?
Obviously I'm changing my outlook on what’s happening and trying to support her. I just don’t really know how to do so. I miss my wife and she’s obviously hurting and I want to help her.
A little background. My wife is older than I , she’ll be 48 in March. The past 2 months she’s been VERY different from her norm. Withdrawn, moody, short, cold and zero patience for myself or our kids. 6 weeks ago she tells me she needs to get away from us for a bit and takes a long weekend trip with her sister. This is not normal for her. None of this is. She’s generally happy, loves the kids and had always seemed head over heals in love with me. So now my eyes are wide open and I’m wondering wtf is going on. Sex drive was usually quite good, now it’s garbage. After a few weeks of this going on I finally said wtf are you doing?
Her response at the time is nothing is wrong. I said well it’s not a good sign when my wife tells me she needs a break from us. She comes back and is worse. Now I’m really like wtf is up. I can only think of one reason why she’d act this way. Anytime we talk it turns into a fight, again not normal. I tell her flat out, it feels like you got something going on outside of the house and if you do you need to tell me before I find it. We can deal with it if you tell me, if I find out on my own we’re done. More fighting.
Finally after me stressing hard and not eating and all this other shit she breaks down. Says she doesn’t know what’s going on, she hasn’t had her period in a couple months, she’s tired all the time, everything upsets her, gaining weight, feels like a failure, etc. Maybe she’s going through her change.
So anyway, I start looking into menopause and it seems that it’s not something that’s really “treatable”. It’s just a natural thing and you pretty much have to deal with the sides that come along with it. Is that true? Are there ways to ease these effects or minimize them? Is she stuck feeling like we as men did prior to trt?
Obviously I'm changing my outlook on what’s happening and trying to support her. I just don’t really know how to do so. I miss my wife and she’s obviously hurting and I want to help her.
