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Do have written goals? I have found goals to be single largest factor in achieving success.

Goals create a future oriented mindset ... I find when focused on those positive things I want in the future they are more likely to happen.

I also find listening to Audible books help in this process ... recent listens include Perfect Week Formula and High Performance Habits ...

Are you into personal development and have you read or listened to anything great lately ...?
 

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Do have written goals? I have found goals to be single largest factor in achieving success.

Goals create a future oriented mindset ... I find when focused on those positive things I want in the future they are more likely to happen.

I also find listening to Audible books help in this process ... recent listens include Perfect Week Formula and High Performance Habits ...

Are you into personal development and have you read or listened to anything great lately ...?



good post bro! And absolutely
I’ve began Reading some scripture and devotion on a Bible app I got ... and I got back into the military (national guard) and am going to airborne school later this year and plan for ranger school in 2022 just as a challenge to myself something to strive for. A physical challenge that I hope will also strengthen my mentally and carry over to all aspects of my life
even just the preparation for it
 

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Do have written goals? I have found goals to be single largest factor in achieving success.

Goals create a future oriented mindset ... I find when focused on those positive things I want in the future they are more likely to happen.

I also find listening to Audible books help in this process ... recent listens include Perfect Week Formula and High Performance Habits ...

Are you into personal development and have you read or listened to anything great lately ...?
Success is a matter of perspective. I could never work another day in my life and never be concerned about money at this point.

If there's one thing I can suggest for someone still on the grind, have goals that aren't financially motivated. It's easy to reach all your financial goals and be less satisfied with life than you were when you were 20 and broke.

Finding purpose is more important than finding success. Having goals is more important than achieving them.

I think listening to podcasts from people who have achieved all they want in life and still find things to work towards is more valuable to me than reading or listening to a book by someone whose only accomplishment in life is selling books to people trying to achieve success.
 

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Do have written goals? I have found goals to be single largest factor in achieving success.

Goals create a future oriented mindset ... I find when focused on those positive things I want in the future they are more likely to happen.

I also find listening to Audible books help in this process ... recent listens include Perfect Week Formula and High Performance Habits ...

Are you into personal development and have you read or listened to anything great lately ...?

been writing my goals down everyday for many years. it's interesting looking back through the notebook how I wrote something everyday for 6 months, some things a year and finally achieved it and starting writing something new in it's place.

have you read or listened to?

Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything By: BJ Fogg PhD


Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back By: Gary John Bishop


Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones By: James Clear


Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds By: David Goggins


I got something from these titles.
 

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"if it's not on the list....it doesn't exist."---Plato.... probably.

Show me someone who doesn't constantly write down and update goals that they can regularly see....I'll show you a probable failure, or an unlikely success.
 

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For most, setting goals is a good way to stay focused and on track, it just never worked for me; long term or short. Just an example of a short term one- 'I'm going to do this, that and the other thing over the weekend" I would get some stuff done and then dwell on what I didn't get done. Now I just move from 1 project to another and feel better that I completed something.
 

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Success is a matter of perspective. I could never work another day in my life and never be concerned about money at this point.

If there's one thing I can suggest for someone still on the grind, have goals that aren't financially motivated. It's easy to reach all your financial goals and be less satisfied with life than you were when you were 20 and broke.

Finding purpose is more important than finding success. Having goals is more important than achieving them.

I think listening to podcasts from people who have achieved all they want in life and still find things to work towards is more valuable to me than reading or listening to a book by someone whose only accomplishment in life is selling books to people trying to achieve success.

69 I always enjoy your posts - they usually have a bit of negative undertone (but in a cool way) ... and I have no doubt that you believe in what you are saying and that you always come from a place of contribution ... I just happen to live on the other side of the fence - philosophically speaking ....

At my core, I believe the idea that a man can improve himself through his own effort. The best ways I found to do this is through goals, hard work, accountability, and community support.

I started out in a lower middle class family with few advantages ... but I did have great parents ...

I am unsure why you (and others) have the perception that success precludes purpose or other positive outcomes ... I can tell you from experience in the real world success does NOT preclude these things .. in fact you find those who volunteer most (both of their time and resource) are far more likely to be successful (financially) ... this idea of working somehow runs contrary to purpose is misguided. I am most driven when I am in alignment to my closest held values while directly connecting with my life purpose ... again work nor success detract from purpose - in my experience it has been be quite the opposite.

Also, having financial goals as well as family, fitness, and spiritual is what works best from me ... I am unsure why you and others believe that by having and achieving financial goals that they will somehow override ones purpose ... done correctly they are achieved together .. thus my reason for this post .. I dedicate 30 minutes to 1 hour per day in personal development ... my purpose from 30 years ago has changed (and will no doubt continue to change over the decades) as has my ability to help far more people ...

My purpose here is to educate people that financial success is character neutral ... the desire to achieve financial success is NOT EVIL ... also the ideal of improving yourself is not selfish ... with more ... more skills - more experience - more financial resources you can actually have a much greater impact .. and at the end of the day be 100% purpose driven.
 
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69 I always enjoy your posts - they usually have a bit of negative undertone (but in a cool way) ... and I have no doubt that you believe in what you are saying and that you always come from a place of contribution ... I just happen to live on the other side of the fence - philosophically speaking ....

At my core, I believe the idea that a man can improve himself through his own effort. The best ways I found to do this is through goals, hard work, accountability, and community support.

I started out in a lower middle class family with few advantages ... but I did have great parents ...

I am unsure why you (and others) have the perception that success precludes purpose or other positive outcomes ... I can tell you from experience in the real world success does NOT preclude these things .. in fact you find those who volunteer most (both of their time and resource) are far more likely to be successful (financially) ... this idea of working somehow runs contrary to purpose is misguided. I am most driven when I am in alignment to my closest held values while directly connecting with my life purpose ... again work nor success detract from purpose - in my experience it has been be quite the opposite.

Also, having financial goals as well as family, fitness, and spiritual is what works best from me ... I am unsure why you and others believe that by having and achieving financial goals that they will somehow override ones purpose ... done correctly they are achieved together .. thus my reason for this post .. I dedicate 30 minutes to 1 hour per day in personal development ... my purpose from 30 years ago has changed (and will no doubt continue to change over the decades) as has my ability to help far more people ...

My purpose here is to educate people that financial success is character neutral ... the desire to achieve financial success is NOT EVIL ... also the ideal of improving yourself is not selfish ... with more ... more skills - more experience - more financial resources you can actually have a much greater impact .. and at the end of the day be 100% purpose driven.

Nobody has said that your financial goals to succeed in making money are evil.

Only that there are other, more valuable priorities.

I another post I stated I was proud of you and happy for you that you are so financially successful. I applaud you. I also think you are a man of high character.

Nobody is attacking you.

Just offering another perspective.
 

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Nobody has said that your financial goals to succeed in making money are evil.

Only that there are other, more valuable priorities.

I another post I stated I was proud of you and happy for you that you are so financially successful. I applaud you. I also think you are a man of high character.

Nobody is attacking you.

Just offering another perspective.
Said about as well as anyone could.

I am attacking the shit out of everyone writing books in the self help/motivation section of a book store or going town to town doing conferences. These are people who can't do, so they try to teach, one book sale at a time.

You don't see anything about work/life balance, or the dangers of obsessing with goals and wasting away your most valuable currency, your time. It's easy to find your bank account overflowing and your personal relationships empty.

The contrasting perspective may come off negative, and sometimes it is. Everything in moderation. Having goals is great, obsessing with them isn't. How many guys writing their goals every day are married and are writing make my wife happier than yesterday? Have kids and write a goal about helping their kids find their place in the world?

If you're going to write your goals daily, write then in the correct order. Family goals, personal satisfaction goals, then professional/financial goals.
 
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Said about as well as anyone could.

I am attacking the shit out of everyone writing books in the self help/motivation section of a book store or going town to town doing conferences. These are people who can't do, so they try to teach, one book sale at a time.

You don't see anything about work/life balance, or the dangers of obsessing with goals and wasting away your most valuable currency, your time. It's easy to find your bank account overflowing and your personal relationships empty.

The contrasting perspective may come off negative, and sometimes it is. Everything in moderation. Having goals is great, obsessing with them isn't. How many guys writing their goals every day are married and are writing make my wife happier than yesterday? Have kids and write a goal about helping their kids find their place in the world?

If you're going to write your goals daily, write then in the correct order. Family goals, personal satisfaction goals, then professional/financial goals.

For the 13 years I've written down my goals everyday I've never had a goal that had anything to do with my wife or children. Never crossed my mind till I read what you wrote.

There are so many perspectives on life here. Something else you said "make my wife happier than yesterday" It was my understanding that happiness comes from within. I can't make her be happy. She either is or she isn't. Of course don't do something to make her upset or sad. Interesting.
 

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For the 13 years I've written down my goals everyday I've never had a goal that had anything to do with my wife or children. Never crossed my mind till I read what you wrote.

There are so many perspectives on life here. Something else you said "make my wife happier than yesterday" It was my understanding that happiness comes from within. I can't make her be happy. She either is or she isn't. Of course don't do something to make her upset or sad. Interesting.
We all have an impact on the happiness and wellbeing of those in our lives. You can't make a person happy, but you can contribute to their happiness. You can also contribute to their insecurities, fears, ect.

Identifying a need your partner has and setting a goal to fill it seems just as important to me as identifying your own needs and trying to fill them.
 
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For the 13 years I've written down my goals everyday I've never had a goal that had anything to do with my wife or children. Never crossed my mind till I read what you wrote.

There are so many perspectives on life here. Something else you said "make my wife happier than yesterday" It was my understanding that happiness comes from within. I can't make her be happy. She either is or she isn't. Of course don't do something to make her upset or sad. Interesting.

This is true and makes sense from someone actually working on improving themselves - I resonate with your statement ... we all benefit from working on ourselves .. the best way any of us could create more joy for our partners is to be more joyful ourselves ...
 
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Well, it may be about time I came clean.

I see My primary responsibility here at UG to help create and sustain an uplifting community of support and encouragement. So, I generally keep my personal beliefs separate because they can be divisive.

But I cannot answer OPs question without relating those beliefs to you.

I am always striving to improve. Spiritually, relationally, mentally and physically. In that order.

I do not consider myself a religious man. But I am deeply devoted to modeling myself after one man. That man is Jesus. I have no loyalty to any church or man made institution.

I was a young selfish fool. Living for pleasure, popularity, and money. Making six figures, driving a 500hp vette and ****ing everything that moved. And I was miserable. You all never knew the old Jin. Egotistical wild child.

You all know my character now. The difference is my choice made to follow the wisest, kindest, most selfless man who ever lived.

I am currently working with a spiritual coach. My latest endeavor are:

to chose not to be angry
to chose never to take offense
to respond to negativity/conflict with love.
and to do all this with joy.

The significance of my life is the the sum of my relationships. With God and with others. It’s an infinitely simple prospect to be like Christ: Love God. Love neighbor. It’s impossible to do with perfection.

My priorities are all relational. In this order:
God
Wife
Kids
Spiritual family
Neighbors
humanity

I wake up at 4 everyday so that from 11am onward I am completely interruptible. Being available for my fellow man is my priority.

My intent isn’t to stir the pot or engage in debate. This is how I live my life and I am fully satisfied and joyful in the way I live.

It’s not an easy path. But it’s worth it.
 

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Well, it may be about time I came clean.

I see My primary responsibility here at UG to help create and sustain an uplifting community of support and encouragement. So, I generally keep my personal beliefs separate because they can be divisive.

But I cannot answer OPs question without relating those beliefs to you.

I am always striving to improve. Spiritually, relationally, mentally and physically. In that order.

I do not consider myself a religious man. But I am deeply devoted to modeling myself after one man. That man is Jesus. I have no loyalty to any church or man made institution.

I was a young selfish fool. Living for pleasure, popularity, and money. Making six figures, driving a 500hp vette and ****ing everything that moved. And I was miserable. You all never knew the old Jin. Egotistical wild child.

You all know my character now. The difference is my choice made to follow the wisest, kindest, most selfless man who ever lived.

I am currently working with a spiritual coach. My latest endeavor are:

to chose not to be angry
to chose never to take offense
to respond to negativity/conflict with love.
and to do all this with joy.

The significance of my life is the the sum of my relationships. With God and with others. It’s an infinitely simple prospect to be like Christ: Love God. Love neighbor. It’s impossible to do with perfection.

My priorities are all relational. In this order:
God
Wife
Kids
Spiritual family
Neighbors
humanity

I wake up at 4 everyday so that from 11am onward I am completely interruptible. Being available for my fellow man is my priority.

My intent isn’t to stir the pot or engage in debate. This is how I live my life and I am fully satisfied and joyful in the way I live.

It’s not an easy path. But it’s worth it.

I agree with and appreciate your post .. the only thing I take exception to is the comment that making 6 figures+ and owning corvettes is somehow bad ... I'm on my 4th vet .. and have driven them since I was in my early 30's (nearly 25 years) ... I do this strange thing .. called buy them cash and then driving them for 6 to 10 years ... they are great cars .. I also own SUV's to drive the fam and multiple people around ... but again ... we can all reach our spiritual goals while also aspiring to achieve financially .. this idea that they are mutual exclusive is BS ... some of the very best most moral people I know are very wealthy ... I also know many wealthy people who are scumbags .... this is also true of people I know who are middle class ... people may be close to Jesus mentally .. it does not make them Jesus .... this judgement of others because they are capable (or choose not to) of creating financial success over many decades does not make them corrupt or evil as has been implied ....
 
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