My dad jusst died.

[MrInsensitive]

fellas this is probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Just simply accept it!! How easy is that?
But I can't. I'm a fucked up mess. I lost my mom 2 years ago almost exactly.
I need to man up. I'm sick of crying all the time. I'm sick of being selfish.
I gotta get back to work. I've missed 3 days now. Everyone gets it, it's hard. And no one makes it out of this life, alive.
I dunno guys. I can ramble for levee about this shit.
I could most certainly use some direction.
Hit me-

 

[Wizbang]

It is never easy to lose a loved one to death, but they continue to live on as long as someone remembers them and you are a part of them, their genes live on in you so in some way they continue to exist, at least genetically speaking. Bury them, grieve them, but always remember them.

 

[bvs]

Take you time bro, talk to people, there is no need to man up. Its ok to be sad

 

[corvettels3]

Sorry for your loss my man. Everyone grieves differently. Take as much time as you need.

 

[CohibaRobusto]

Sorry to hear man. Losing my dad was definitely the hardest loss I've had to deal with. Good news is that it gets better with time. Hang in there. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and living right.

 

[Diesel59]

I'm sorry for your loss. It's understandable you'd need more than just a couple days off from work. Try to do something or go somewhere that will clear your head, if possible.

 

[iron-rage66]

Everyone dies. As you age, it becomes more common (people around you dying) and you become less sensitive to it.

Man up and deal w/ it...

 

[CJ]

Sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

The grieving process is normal, and doesn't have set times. Life sucks sometimes, but every new day it'll get a little better.

 

[Thrawn]

I'm so sorry to hear.

 

[Yano]

"Eternal God, bless those who mourn with the comfort of your love that they may face each new day with hope and the certainty that nothing can destroy the good that has been given. May their memories become joyful, their days enriched with friendship, and their lives encircled by your love."

Amen

Things like this are why I keep tabs on folks , so sorry for your loss and pain. If you need anything , talk , yell , scream at the sky for a while and don't want to do it alone , hit me up.

God Bless.

 

[BigChief1]

Both of my parents are still kicking. I hate to think of the day when they are no longer around. So sorry for your loss.

 

[Santa]

Sorry about your loss. I hope you and your family are doing the best you can right now. Don’t be hard on yourself. Take the time you need to get yourself right. Feel everything you need to feel. It’s never easy.

In time you will find the strength you need to carry on and get back to your new normal. The best thing we can do for our loved ones that have passed is to remember them and carry on their legacy.

Take care man. All the best to you.

 

[Thrawn]

I'm so sorry to hear.

Sorry I really suck at condolences for death, lots of family died when I was young so my ability to process it always has been awkward when offered to me and in turn feels awkward when offering. Did not want you to feel I was just offering lip service.

 

[MrInsensitive]

I needed to talk to someone. Who better than you guys. Lol.
I'm trying to reach out. I'm in a dark place.
My kids need me. They lost their Papa. My wife's all over my ass. She said "I lost daddy too" and she's right. He's all she had left. No contact with her family.
But I'm disappearing, for hours. I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Because I'm trying to stay busy..
Ill be totally tranparent. Ive drank myself to sleep every night. I thought getting high would help. I use to love that when i wss younger. It left me inside a prison of my own making. I thought I'd never get out of my head. It couldn't wear off fast enough.

Thank you all so much for your kind words.
I sincerely appreciate this. More than you know.

 

[Janoy Cresva]

Wtf you mean being selfish? Take some time off brudda your dad just passed you can grieve. Work will always be there

 

[JeffGoldblumLips]

Take your time playboi.

 

[MrInsensitive]

Wtf you mean being selfish? Take some time off brudda your dad just passed you can grieve. Work will always be there

I appreciate that brother. Thank you.
I was actually quoting my wife. She says I've been really selfish since it happened. My kids need me, she needs me. And I haven't really been there for anyone. They lost him too. Sure it isn't the same level. Be that as it may, I am doing the best I can. I didn't think I'm of any use to them, If I can't get right. If I can't get myself together, how am I going to keep them from falling apart. I don't know man. Im in a weird place.

 

[JeffGoldblumLips]

I appreciate that brother. Thank you.
I was actually quoting my wife. She says I've been really selfish since it happened. My kids need me, she needs me. And I haven't really been there for anyone. They lost him too. Sure it isn't the same level. Be that as it may, I am doing the best I can. I didn't think I'm of any use to them, If I can't get right. If I can't get myself together, how am I going to keep them from falling apart. I don't know man. Im in a weird place.

I imagine there was a time your father felt the same. Good parents do a great job of shielding us from weight of the hardships they face. I know you, like him, will make it through.
I don't have experience going through this but I imagine you will have to "fake it till you make it", in that pretending you are starting to get over it will be what allows moments of happiness to start poking through.

 

[Send0]

Honestly, your wife should be emotionally supporting you during this time... Not telling you to basically get over it.

I'm sorry for your loss man.

 

[almostgone]

Losing a loved one is hard. I wish I had some "magic" advice to share, but unfortunately, I don't.

I can say that with time, it will get easier. My experience has been that it doesn't necessarily better, but it does get a tad easier.

My condolences and prayers.