Jenn_is_Jenning
Female Alpha Leader
- Joined
- Dec 11, 2020
- Messages
- 660
- Reaction score
- 1,254
- Points
- 133
Well, I feel pretty pleased with everything.
Yesterday he messaged me and I took a few hours to reply (I was trying to gather my bearings to tell him I wasn't interested), and then he unmatched me on bumble. I thought, oh good, he's ghosting me, lol. But, then he texted last night "so, you coming over this week at all?"
I said
"To be honest, I think there are some lifestyle differences that make me feel this isn't going to work out. I like to be out and about and I really only smoke pot a few times a year. It would be difficult to be with someone who did it every day. Not that I judge or look down on those who do, I'm just looking for something more suitable to my lifestyle. I'm sorry"
Then he says
"LMAO, way to completely judge while say you're not judging. It's all good though, I only went out with you because I felt sorry for you since you seemed to be such an emotional train wreck which proved to be true when I met you. You think running off to the military is going to help you, ha, think again. Good luck"
I said nothing else. I also didn't feel hurt in the slightest because I knew he was just upset and lashing out.
Which makes me feel like less of an emotional train wreck than I thought I was.
I also talked fairly openly about wanting to leave some kind of significant footprint on this earth after losing my dad with my reasoning being joining the military. It was pretty cruel to try to use that against me.
I think me acting obviously EXTREMELY uncomfortable when he randomly tried to get on top of me screamed "emotional train wreck" to him. But, in actuality, it just meant I'm not comfortable with you or horny for you. Doesn't go any deeper than that.
I feel better about myself for 1- not ghosting and 2- not taking his insults personally.
All in all, horrible date, wouldn't not recommend, cab money would have been better spent elsewhere, but good lessons learned.
Yesterday he messaged me and I took a few hours to reply (I was trying to gather my bearings to tell him I wasn't interested), and then he unmatched me on bumble. I thought, oh good, he's ghosting me, lol. But, then he texted last night "so, you coming over this week at all?"
I said
"To be honest, I think there are some lifestyle differences that make me feel this isn't going to work out. I like to be out and about and I really only smoke pot a few times a year. It would be difficult to be with someone who did it every day. Not that I judge or look down on those who do, I'm just looking for something more suitable to my lifestyle. I'm sorry"
Then he says
"LMAO, way to completely judge while say you're not judging. It's all good though, I only went out with you because I felt sorry for you since you seemed to be such an emotional train wreck which proved to be true when I met you. You think running off to the military is going to help you, ha, think again. Good luck"
I said nothing else. I also didn't feel hurt in the slightest because I knew he was just upset and lashing out.
Which makes me feel like less of an emotional train wreck than I thought I was.
I also talked fairly openly about wanting to leave some kind of significant footprint on this earth after losing my dad with my reasoning being joining the military. It was pretty cruel to try to use that against me.
I think me acting obviously EXTREMELY uncomfortable when he randomly tried to get on top of me screamed "emotional train wreck" to him. But, in actuality, it just meant I'm not comfortable with you or horny for you. Doesn't go any deeper than that.
I feel better about myself for 1- not ghosting and 2- not taking his insults personally.
All in all, horrible date, wouldn't not recommend, cab money would have been better spent elsewhere, but good lessons learned.